Caring for your crying baby when he is difficult to sooth can be overwhelming. Here are some ways you can give yourself a break and ease your stress.
Caring for a newborn baby means sleepless nights, changing dirty diapers, and getting used to a feeding schedule. When you add to this a baby that is difficult to sooth, resulting in constant crying, a parent can easily reach their limit.
If you are finding yourself in this situation, do not despair, it’s not an uncommon problem. New and experienced parents alike find themselves in this position and don’t always know what to do. It can be easy to get overwhelmed and frustrated, which doesn’t help when trying to find a solution. Check out our tips for consoling your crying baby.
You Need a Break
But what about you? You need to take care of yourself and you must not feel guilty about it. In some situations, your stress may even be contributing to your baby’s stress, causing him to cry more than usual.
First of all, keep in mind that this is a phase that your baby will outgrow. However, here are a few other tips to try until that time comes:
- When you’re frustrated, put your baby down in a safe place and let him cry for a little while. Remember, crying will not hurt your baby.
- Don’t try to be super-mom or super-dad. Recognize your limitations.
- Ask a trusted friend or relative to take over for a while. Get out of the house and get fresh air or do something that you enjoy.
- When you feel frustrated, make sure you take deep breaths.
- Play some music, this may help distract you and may also end up being soothing to your baby.
- Call a friend or relative and talk to them about your frustration.
- Have a good cry! You can do this in private or with a friend that you trust but just let it all out.
- Do not shake your baby! Even the most patient and loving parent may find this situation too stressful to cope with in the moment.
Remember, even a 5 minute break can be just enough to help calm your nerves. Put your baby in a safe place and walk away before doing anything that could hurt your child.
“I would call my mom and she would sit with my baby while I took a nap. I never took naps before I was a mom,” says one first-time mother.
Being sleep deprived adds to feelings of fatigue and frustration. Oftentimes, we can handle a situation better when we have a little more rest. And while it’s unrealistic to expect to get great rest when caring for an infant, taking advantage of little amounts of time to nap or rest can make all the difference.